Happiness.
Today is my birthday, January 5th. (Yup, just getting around to post this!) Some will call. Some will forget. Some will send a quick text message. There is happiness in being remembered, but that isn’t how you gauge happiness. True, others can make you feel happy, however they are not the ones in charge of your happiness. Nor should they be.
To be truly happy, you have to know what and who makes you happy. Finding that is a journey in itself, and looking within you will find most of what you’re looking for.
Happiness isn’t a when, or a person. ‘When’ this happens or ‘when’ I get here I’ll be happy. If you’re not happy in the here and now – it ain’t going to happen later. Be happy in the present day, you can take that with you anywhere any time!
Married twice, so I know you can’t entrust others to make you happy. It’s not their job or anyone else for that matter. It’s your own damn job to be happy. When I said ‘who’ makes you happy, I meant to be with those who you find happiness with. Surround yourself with others who lift you up. Bring you joy. Share life’s moments that are meaningful. Bring conversation to the table. Gives you a sense of belonging rather than just fitting in.
Bernee Brown talks about the difference between belonging and fitting in. When you try to fit in, it becomes a us or them, left or right, choose a side in order to be apart of a group. You find yourself having to change or adapt to one group in order to ‘fit in’. Whereas belonging feels more like coming home. They’re your people, your tribe, your community who accept you for who you are. And being yourself allows you the opportunity to be free.
Allowing yourself to be happy is on you too. It’s a choice. Everything may line up to pure joy, but if you don’t allow yourself to accept happiness into your life – what are you telling the universe? You’re not worthy? Why not? We are after all, a spiritual soul living & having a human experience. We are all deserving of the best life we can create. It’s okay to be happy!
Doesn’t cost a damn thing either!
